Sometimes, it’s all in the handshake!
Posted on: Saturday, June 24th, 2006Comments: 0
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Have you ever noticed the difference in handshakes between various people? Sometimes you get the limp fish; sometimes you get the half hand; sometimes you get the quick release; sometimes you get the quick look-away or the quick look-down; and sometimes, when your lucky, you get the firm shake with the firm stare and a smile.
I don’t know enough about the human psyche to know what the various handshakes mean. But, I do know this; when someone shakes my hand firmly, gives me a firm stare, and a smile, I believe they are confident. Whether they really are confident is something to be determined between them and their shrink. But whether they are or aren’t, my first impression is that they are.
And first impressions mean a lot. It’s true that you only have one chance to make a first impression. It’s also true that first impressions create a presumption. If people meet you and think you’re weak, that’s how they’ll treat you. Sure, you can overcome it, but you’re starting behind…it takes effort to overcome a negative presumption. You’re now fighting an uphill battle.
If on the other hand, with your first impression, you portray confidence, you begin the relationship on top. You begin with momentum. You’ll be treated differently, more respectfully. All things are possible.
So, why should it be any different with children? Yes, I know, children don’t typically shake hands with one another. But, children should (and often do) shake hands with adults. And when they do, adults treat them differently. They’re treated as mature…as leaders. Adults are more willing to interact with them. To give them more responsibility. To call them out from the group in subtle ways. And other children see that. Other children will subtly treat them with more respect because of the way adults treat them. Every little bit means a lot as time goes on.
So, a handshake should be natural for them. They should shake hands firmly. They should make eye contact. And they should confidently smile. And parents should practice this and be sure they do it every time. Soon, it will be natural. And soon, adults will treat them with more respect.
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